I don't know about you but I am a rather timid person when it comes to public relations. I get sweaty-shaky nervous when I go through the checkout line, and can barely make eye contact with the cashier. I purposefully avoid chatty cashiers, especially the chatty male cashiers.
Groups of people are a nightmare to me, especially if we're in a place with music playing and other conversations going on. I do better with one-on-one conversations but get so nervous if I have to be alone in a car with one person. I just don't know what to say! Making eye contact and smiling is rough for me during conversations, and it always has been.
So recently I started the habit of whispering "confidence is key" to myself before going to the store, to church, to my friend's house, to parties, to weddings, and other public gatherings, but the problem with saying that to myself is that when I said "confidence is key" I was thinking, "you're pretty, you're smart, and you can do this." What's wrong with being pretty, smart, and capable? Nothing! But that shouldn't be our main focus. Our main focus in everything should be Christ.
I still whisper "confidence is key" to myself before going places, but my thought behind it is this; "you're pretty because you are just what God made you to be, you're smart because You are filled with the knowledge that God has given to you, and you are capable because God gives you His strength." So go and be confident in the self that is Christ-filled, and know that you can have the deepest confidence when you are covered by His blood.